The Boy in the Window by Barbara Coppo – Book Review

Morgan-James Publishing (2007)

ISBN 9781600372650

One of the things we mothers have is an incredible sense of things going wrong with our children. Barbara Coppo was no different. She and her husband Ken already had a beautiful healthy girl, when she found out she was pregnant again. She wasn’t sure how she felt about being pregnant again now that she had a great career and her daughter was a teenager, but as time went on she was very excited and hoped that this pregnancy would bring her husband and her closer together. On February 1, 1978 she delivered a healthy boy whom they named Kenny. Kenny was the center of attention for his first year of life–adored by everyone. When it came time for Kenny to have his eighteen-month shots, Barbara got a “feeling,” and wasn’t sure what was causing the apprehension. After several lengthy discussions with her pediatrician, her husband and family members, she finally decided to get him his boosters.

On September 6th, 1979, Kenny got his last series of the d.p.t. booster – his life would change forever. After a few days, Kenny wasn’t able to talk, walk or respond in his normal happy way. Even the doctor’s were stumped as to what had happened– they continued to explain that vaccines for children were very safe. And again the next day Kenny began to have convulsions — still no reason why.

This was Kenny’s life to this day– seizures, mobility problems, no friends and he has characteristics of autism. Doctor’s even had the gall to tell his mother that he was retarded. With numerous evaluations, behavioral schools, special classes and countless hours of care and research by his mother, it was realized Kenny would never be a normal child again.

Even through the years, pediatricians kept telling Kenny’s parents that vaccines were safe. Yet one doctor finally told Barbara that through research it was indicated, after the d.p.t. vaccines, that some children became autistic, mentally-challenged and some even died. This is a parent’s worse nightmare – all of us today think about the effect of vaccines on our children. Yet never once did Kenny’s parents, friends, therapists give up on him. They continued to push him to the point that he was finally able to talk through the use of facilitative communication. No one even imagined he had all those thoughts and intelligence in him. He was very aware of his challenges and knew he was different. He was also very mathematically inclined.

To this day, Kenny is a loner, but has many friends and supporters. He loves to watch people through his upstairs window. He has a set routine that no one can upset or his violent behavior will come out. But he has made great strides even though he came across many obstacles with very little support from the school systems.

How does a mother do this? You do what you have to do to save your child, never take no for an answer. Many parents of children with special needs have been through this high and low road.

Having worked with family members who have children or adult children with special challenges for over 25 years, Barbara Coppo’s story is the same for many of them. The frustration, anger and trying to figure out what they did to cause this. My personal and professional opinion is that everyone involved with children; teachers, coaches, school boards and therapists should read “The Boy in the Window” to get a first-hand knowledge of what families go through.

Book Review: Cruise Control

Robert Weiss has written a very interesting and unique book about gay men who are involved in sex addictions. Throughout he not only describes the changes that have occurred over time for the gay culture but also addresses many of the stereotypes that have been held by society.

Weiss begins by clearly defining sex addiction and the myth are surround it. He keeps it simple with statements such as “Active sex addiction is an unhealthy way to get your emotional needs met”. (Page 48).

The author describes the delicate interplay between nature and nurture as well as factors that can lead an individual into an addictive cycle. He also addresses the shame and other vulnerabilities trap the addict not only in their dysfunctional sexual patterns but also in other chemical and activity obsessions.

Knowing the differences between healthy, addictive and offending sexual behaviours can be confusing but Weiss clears up the confusion with his honest and detailed writing style. He does not generalize or label “right” and “wrong” but instead talks about the expectations and boundaries that couples have for themselves and each other. Their relationship is jeopardized when these are broken or disrespected.

When is comes to change, Weiss states that promises to self and others are not enough. The sex addict is unable to make and maintain healthy changes on his own They need a carefully designed written plan as well as support from helpful friends, professionals and others in recovery in order to maintain long-term transformation.

“Cruise Control” outlines the specific steps in detail for creating goals and writing the boundary plan. It consists of goals, beliefs and principles in three specific areas. The Inner boundary is for those behaviours that are damaging and can no longer be tolerated. The Middle boundary identifies triggers such as people, places and experiences that will lead back to addiction. The Outer boundary states the rewards that will be enjoyed as a result of the desired changes. Examples of Boundary plans are included as well as a template for creating a personal boundary plan.

Weiss uses two chapters to talk about the need and benefits for getting support from others and for obtaining appropriate therapy. He devotes a chapter to technology and provides one for partners and spouses.

It is obvious that Weiss wants the reader to understand that there are resources to help the addict and their loved ones to become healthier. Lists for Recommended Reading, Support Resources as well as a screening test are included as appendices.

This book is amazing. It provides an educational as well as a therapeutic perspective for any reader who is interested in learning more about how humans think and act. You don’t have to be gay or involved with someone who is gay in order to benefit from the wisdom that Robert Weiss has invested in “Cruise Control”.

Skintervention Guide by Liz Wolfe Review

It is about time for you to learn about The Skintervention Guide. What is this product all about? It is a digital book that will tell you all the secrets to living with a great and healthy skin. No more acne, no more going about looking for the right skin care products, because all you need is your own copy of The Skintervention Guide and you will be on your way to having a healthy skin. Everyone is born to have a beautiful skin, and this guide will show you just that!

Created by the Certified Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, Liz Wolfe herself has proven her methods to work because she used to experience skin problems just like what we have to deal with everyday. But after learning deeper about skin, she know has a three-part approach as to how we can have a beautiful, healthy skin by following her methods. It has been proven true as she herself tried it for her and because she realized how amazing it worked on her, it is about time that she shared her knowledge to everyone else.

“The Skintervention Guide” is the answer to your skin problems because it will explain to you all the secrets that you need to know. Firstly, you will understand about the foods which are crucial to building a great skin. We might not understand this yet but eating the right foods will give us the right nutrition to support our skin. It is all about knowing what the foods contain and what will right for you, and Liz Wolfe knows it all.

It is not just food, but she will also share to us the best cleansing and nourishing products for our skins. We always think that it has to contain chemicals and other substances that will make our skin looks better. Well, according to The Skintervention Guide, there are certain products which are without a doubt the best for your skin, and these products do not contain chemicals that you do not know about because it is all natural!

So, we have been talking a lot about the pros of using this guide. Are there actually any cons? Well, this guide might not be something that is right for you when you are all about following the conventional methods from your skin doctors and do not easily believe what people share online. They feel that the content shared online is somewhat questionable compared to what doctors say to us face to face. It is true that The Skintervention Guide come in a digital format, but the great thing is that it actually works!

By: Cenk Ozkanli